Life After Baby is a series to celebrate the journey of motherhood. To take an inside peak into the most memorable and vulnerable experiences we all share as mothers.
We are continually inspired by the journey of motherhood. It has been our greatest teacher thus far. Like all of us mamas, Kirstie, mama to Jack (just 14 weeks at the time of posting), is quickly getting to know the vulnerability which comes with the tile of ‘Mama’. Her journey is empowering and inspiring. She took our breath away with her genuine and authentic responses. With such a new baby, Kirstie is one rock star mama, creating the jewellery label ‘Jack & Izz’, when Jack was just 8 weeks old. Today’s she’s openly sharing her journey with us and we know you’re going to love it. Dive in below.
Sum up in one sentence what it means to you to be a Mum
To love and protect unconditionally (*** Note to self, remember this when you hear constant crying at 3am!!)
If you had to pick one, what’s been your most memorable experience as a Mum?
The moment that I finally got to hold my beautiful little man. It was actually my birthday, 5 days after he was born, and 4 days after he had an operation to connect his oesophagus to his stomach (He’s a TOF/OA baby, from his mouth the oesphagus stopped with a little pouch, and from the stomach the oesphagus connected to the lungs!) He was connected to a lot of machines, it was totally awkward and I cried A LOT, but it was seriously amazing! I have never felt so much love for anything in my whole life!
Share with us your most vulnerable mama moment
I am an absolute control freak, so being a mother makes me feel insanely vulnerable FULL STOP. No two days are the same, no two sleep time or bath times or feed times are the same, and that has been difficult for me to come to terms with. I know that I need to be flexible and roll with the punches, but knowing that what I need to be and actually being it, well they’re totally different things! I often feel like it is something that I am doing that means todays sleep time is worse than yesterdays. I search for what I did differently yesterday, try and analyse how I could improve upon today. However, I am learning, albeit slowly, that it’s not me or something that I did, it’s just babies! They change every day and that’s ok! It is scary to be so open to chance and not in control, but it’s also very liberating! Nothing but motherhood could scare you so much, but make you feel so free at the same time!
What’s one thing you have learnt about yourself you didn’t know before becoming a mama?
I am a seriously selfish person! Well not selfish, but I like to do what I like to do, when I like to do it! And that isn’t always possible when you have a baby! Don’t get me wrong, having a bite-size little cutie attached to me 24/7 is tough sometimes, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
How do you define balance?
Fitting a bit of everything into this crazy thing we call life! Before we started to try for a baby, I was terrible at finding balance in my life! All I did was work!! When we started IVF, I let that take over a bit, but I did have some balance – Work and IVF… When we got pregnant, I got a bit better at finding balance – Work, healthy eating, exercise and SLEEP! Now that I’m a Mumma, my balance is…well I’m not even sure some of the time! But hopefully as I get a bit more used to having my little man around, my balance will find itself!
Finish this sentence
I secretly wish I could…have a full nights sleep… uninterrupted!!! 8.30pm – 8.30am!!!
I combat self doubt and overwhelm by… crying, calling my mum and letting her tell me that I can handle anything!
I’m most inspired by… all the mummas out there who are killing it!! Hopefully I’ll get in the swing of things soon!
My current affirmation/mantra is… it is all going to be ok in the end and if its not ok, its not the end
My yoga practice is… limited to when baby is asleep and the dog is outside (she likes to lick my face when I’m doing downward dog!)
What’s your one parting piece of guidance for the mama tribe?
Keep smiling! Dont be too hard on yourself! Everything is going to be OK!
I’m Kirstie, I have a lovely partner; Matt, I’m a new first-time mum to Jack, and I have a little Cavoodle, Izzy. I started my small business, Jack & Izz when my little man was 8 weeks old! I have so many ideas of where I want it to go, but at the moment I design, make and sell Mumma Necklaces (great for teething babies), matching Mini Necklaces (for little ones), Mumma Keyrings and felt garlands for nurseries.