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Life After Baby with Holly Brunnbauer

Life After Baby is a series to celebrate the journey of motherhood. To take an inside peak into the most memorable and vulnerable experiences we all share as mothers.

Life After Baby Holly Brunnbauer

When we first met Holly online she was a breath of fresh air with her honesty about the realities of mum life. A busy mama to Austin, wife and owner of Something Special Photo Booth, Holly shares with us how motherhood can be a rollercoaster ride, the challenges of dealing with a babe suffering reflux and accepting that not every mama is born ‘maternal’.

Sum up in one sentence what it means to you to be a Mum

Being a mum is an emotional roller coaster ride – within minutes I experience joy, sadness, peace, frustration and everything in between.

If you had to pick one, what’s been your most memorable experience as a Mum?

On one occasion when my son was sick at night and nothing would comfort him, I brought him into our room and let him snuggle up to me. It was in my arms that he finally had the comfort he needed and slept until morning. I was so uncomfortable as I dislike being touched while I sleep and certainly cannot tolerate sleeping on my back. However, the urge to help my son feel better was much more important and necessary than my own mild discomfort. In that moment, I truly felt like I was a mother and that my bubba bear needed me.

Share with us your most vulnerable mama moment

My most vulnerable mama moment was when my son was 12 weeks old. He cried and screamed for three days straight as a result of reflux and cluster feeding. My wonderful husband told me to get out of the house and have a break. I desperately wanted to see friends but they all had plans. Instead I wandered to Kmart and cried my eyes out. I was heartbroken that my baby was so distressed. I felt like a complete failure because I couldn’t help. I also felt like an absolute loser because it was a Saturday night and I was crying in the towel aisle at Kmart. I was extremely angry that all those excited people who came to see me when our baby was born, were now nowhere in sight. I was abandoned. They say it takes a village to raise a child but where were my bloody village people? I was exhausted and completely lost. I wasn’t even treading water anymore. I was drowning. My saving grace was that my new mothers group began to really bond at that time. It is with these ladies that I finally found my village people. We may not have the answers as we are all going through it at the same time but it so comforting to have someone who really understands how you feel. #loveyourtribe

What’s one thing you have learnt about yourself you didn’t know before becoming a mama?

I have always wanted children but I do recognise and accept that I am not really ‘maternal’. Since having my son, I have realised that I can still give love and be nurturing without necessarily knowing what I am doing.

How do you define balance?

Balance for me is accepting that I can’t do it all and that’s absolutely ok. It’s about changing my own mindset and focussing on the things that are really important and worthy of my precious time. I know I have achieved balance when I am giving attention to the areas in my life that need it and letting go of the things that really don’t matter that much.

Finish this sentence

I secretly wish I could…have a weekend away ALL BY MYSELF!
I combat self doubt and overwhelm by…speaking honestly with my husband. He always gives me the pep talk that I need and helps me to see things for what they really are.
I’m most inspired by…my husband. He is strong, sensitive and steps up when it counts. More importantly he cooks us dinner every night!
My current affirmation/mantra is…Don’t let other people steal your joy.
My yoga practice is…slowly becoming a priority again. I always remind myself that a little is better than none. That’s why I love Yoga Mamas #miniburstsofyoga.

What’s your one parting piece of guidance for the mama tribe?

Don’t ever apologise for being a mum or putting your child’s needs first. Not everyone will understand your situation or your decisions. Stay strong and true in parenting the way you want.

Life After Baby with Holly Brunnbauer

Holly Brunnbauer is a mum to Austin – one spunky 16 month old boy who moves at the speed of light. When she is not chasing Austin around (or her cheeky pug Giuseppe), she is growing her new business Something Special Photo Booth. Holly delivers a boutique photo booth service in Melbourne by offering a stylish booth and deluxe props. With a background in education, Holly also works part-time in the eLearning world and creates online learning for health professionals. She describes herself as a lifelong learner and says she loves supporting other women in business.

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