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Life After Baby with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz

Life After Baby is a series to celebrate the journey of motherhood. To take an inside peak into the most memorable and vulnerable experiences we all share as mothers.

Amy Taylor-Kabbaz Life After Baby

It’s virtually impossible to sum up in a just a few sentences how authentic, honest and awe inspiring Amy Taylor-Kabbaz is. Within weeks of giving birth, her biz Happy Mama popped into my Facebook newsfeed and sparked my curiosity as a new mama. Little did I know it would be exactly what I needed as I tried desperately to navigate the chaos that often is first time motherhood. It’s been an absolute joy to get swept away with this mamas self-love approach to motherhood.

A mama to 3 beautiful babes, Amy is testament to what life can be like when approaching motherhood with ease & flow. A former producer for the ABC, Amy’s traditional career took an unexpected turn when she found herself lost, overwhelmed and diagnosed with a thyroid condition after the birth of her first daughter.

Now Amy runs the successful website for new mums Happy Mama, is host of the podcast Happy Mama Podcast and new author of Happy Mama: the guide to finding yourself again.

She is sharing some of her motherhood journey with Yoga Mamas and boy are we excited to dive in.

Sum up in one sentence what it means to you to be a Mum

Being a Mum means that part of my role in this lifetime is to support, nurture, inspire and love unconditionally the little souls that have come through me into this world.

If you had to pick one, what’s been your most memorable experience as a Mum?

Oh my goodness! How do you pick that? Well, the very first one that came to mind was my middle child’s birth. I think the reason this always comes to mind is because it was the very first time I felt empowered as a woman and a mama. My first birth and beautiful daughter’s first six months were very difficult and I felt completely out of my comfort zone and inadequate. And whilst this was a very very important part of my journey as it was what lead me to start looking into mama wellbeing, mindfulness and self-care, it wasn’t until the challenges of my second daughter’s birth came around that I finally connected to the strength and warrior energy that was inside me.

Greta (my second daughter) was breech, and so after trying to turn her and doing everything I could to get her to go head down, she just wouldn’t budge. And the immediate response from the hospital was – I needed to have a caeserean, which terrified me more than a breech birth. I had not had a good time with my first experience of childbirth, and I’d spent months working on my mindset and skills around labour, and felt so disappointed that I couldn’t at least give it a go again. So, I got my midwife on board, I spoke with the breech expert at our hospital, and got ‘permission’ to let it start naturally. We agreed that if it got dangerous for either of us, I’d be rolled into the theatre as quickly as possible.

Over the coming weeks, I watched videos on breech births, I read about them, I educated myself like I was studying for an exam. Everything I have learnt about motherhood is about feeling empowered, and without really knowing it at the time, that was what I was doing. My husband thought I was crazy and should just book in for the c-section, but I was on a mission to at least give it my best shot (which, as mamas, is all we can ever do.)

In the end, my amazing daughter was born in four hours, in the most empowering moment of my life. We were at home for almost all of it, and only arrived at the hospital twenty minutes before I was holding her. The birth room was full with obstetricians and midwives who were all freaking out that it was a natural breech birth, but I was in the zone: confident and connected. And I know that the power and certainty I felt in that moment has gone on to influence so much of my life and my work with mamas

Share with us your most vulnerable mama moment

There’s so many to chose from here too! As I said, my first child’s entry into the world and early months were full of raw vulnerability and fear. I had no idea what I was doing, and couldn’t get her to feed or settle for months. I also had an undiagnosed thyroid disease which I thought was just because I wasn’t coping as a new Mum. So it was TOUGH.

But the most vulnerable I’ve ever been in this journey was when I went into early labour with my son (my third) at 28 weeks. I had been pushing my body for so many months working as a producer for ABC Breakfast Radio and getting up at 3.30am everyday, while still running my blog and being a mama to two little girls, and my body (and my very wise little boy) finally got to breaking point.

Thankfully, modern medicine prevented him from being born at that moment, but over the following five days in hospital as they kept trying to keep him inside me, I kept asking myself ‘why? why after everything I know about self-care and prioritising yourself and not trying to be superwoman have I done this to myself again? why?’

It was on that hospital bed I finally downloaded a meditation, and started to practice it religiously. And over the coming ten weeks of being couch-ridden and not being able to do ANYTHING, I finally connected to what I really needed and who I really was after all those years of trying to be someone else.

What’s one thing you have learnt about yourself you didn’t know before becoming a mama?

I have learnt that I am a good, loving and kind person. I never used to think I was – I grew up thinking I was a ‘difficult’ child and teenager, and that no-one really understood me. I was always conscious of saying the wrong thing, and felt I needed to earn someone’s love. But since becoming a mama, I have seen that I am just who I am meant to be – and I have a big heart, a huge capacity for love, and a compassion for others that I am now confident to show.

How do you define balance?

Balance is fluid. It is never set in concrete or the same from one day to the next. One day, balance could mean having an afternoon to yourself to go to yoga and take yourself out for a coffee afterwards, and it could mean finding 3 minutes to do a brief but powerful breath meditation in amongst the sick kids and chaos the next day. I don’t think we do ourselves any favours setting anything in stone as mamas, nor by putting high expectations on ourselves. Balance is simply ensuring that every morning you ask yourself – what do each of my family members need today, and what do I need today? And doing your best to achieve that.

Finish this sentence

I secretly wish I could…Work at Vogue. I have always been obsessed with magazines and have always longed to work for one, (although I write for quite a few now), but there’s something about Vogue. Ohhhh. And I don’t think being a meditating, mindful mama means that we can’t divulge in things of beauty. In fact, I think it’s an integral part of a woman’s self-worth and care.
I combat self doubt and overwhelm by…meditating, writing in my journal, or talking it out with a few key girlfriends and my husband.
I’m most inspired by…women who have overcome adversity to shine their light in the world. Drew Barrymore sums it up for me.
My current affirmation/mantra is…I am the light.
My yoga practice is…I have a kundalini yoga practice at home in the mornings which I love. It helps wake me up, get focused, and really strengthens my meditation. But I also go to my local yoga studio in Newtown, Sydney twice a week which is a ‘Jivamukti’ studio – a style of yoga that includes chanting, mantras and a lot of spiritual teachings.

What’s your one parting piece of guidance for the mama tribe?

Be kind to yourself. This is the greatest challenge and change you will ever go through, and the way you speak to yourself in your mind determines how you get through it. Know that you are being born as a completely different woman, and this birth must be honoured. Send yourself love, tell yourself you’re doing the best you can, and find a way to start to bring little moments of awareness and self-care into your day. It can start really small – 3 minutes a day – but it can change EVERYTHING.

Amy Taylor-Kabbaz Life After Baby

Amy Taylor-Kabbaz is a writer, producer, Mindful Mama coach and mother to three young children. After more than a decade covering breaking news and current affairs for the ABC, her ‘traditional’ career took an unexpected turn when she found herself lost, overwhelmed and diagnosed with a thyroid condition after the birth of her first daughter.

Seven years later, and two more babies, she now runs the successful website for new Mums ‘Happy Mama’, which includes the highly successful “Reconnect” online program and Happy Mama podcast, is an internationally accredited life coach specialising in mindfulness and self-care, a columnist, and author of the new book ‘Happy Mama: the guide to finding yourself again.’

Connect with Amy via www.happymama.com.au | Instagram | Facebook |

Soak up a little more of Amy – here’s some extra details about her new book

Happy Mama

Yes, you can put yourself first sometimes. No, it won’t make you a bad mum. Definitely, a happy mama makes for a happy family.

Are you struggling to figure out who you are now that you’re a mum? Do you sometimes feel like you’re coming last in your own life? Do those calm, cellulite-free celebrity mothers make you want to turn toddler and start screaming in the supermarket aisle? It’s okay, you’re not alone. Journalist and life coach Amy Taylor-Kabbaz was one of those women who put themselves last, until she discovered that putting herself first was better not only for her, but for her kids too.

Happy Mama is the collected wisdom from Amy’s makeover from strung-out parent to happy, self-loving mum. Including interviews with working mums, psychologists, counsellors and spiritual leaders, it is full of practical and empowering advice that will help you change the way you feel about motherhood so the whole family can flourish.

Get Amy’s New Book